'The tension was thick' : Wedding DJ Ruins Guest's Attempt at a Tacky Proposal, Later Finds Out the Bride and Groom were in on the Scheme

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    Font - Posted by u/Significant-Pass-784 15 hours ago AITA for ruining a proposal at a wedding?
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    Font - grammar/format I'm Sorry for bad doing this on a phone. So, I (27m) am a part-time DJ. I mostly DJ for just family and friends I'm not really a professional, just do it for a little side cash from time to time.
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    Font - Last weekend I got invited to DJ on the cheap at a wedding for a friend of a friend. At the wedding while everyone was on the dance floor one of the guests we'll call him "Kevin" approached me and asked if I could play the song "Golden Hour" It was an odd request because at this time all the guests were literally hoping around and dancing but I was told to take all requests so did it anyways.
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    Font - When I started playing it the dance floor started to clear up and then Kevin invited a woman onto the dance floor they started slow dancing for a bit, a few people joined them (including the bride and groom) Then at that one part of the song Kevin got down on one knee and I knew right away that he was going to propose. I didn't think it was right especially because they were in the middle of the dance floor with all eyes on them and I kinda felt like if this happened I would take the faul
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    Font - So instead of letting that happened as soon as he pulled out the box I started to play "BOOGIE" and turned up the volume instead. After that Kevin just side-eyed me and got up and everyone else sat down. After that nothing else really happened and the tension was very thick.
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    Font - After the wedding no one really brought it up and I obviously thought that I wasn't the asshole and the friend that was friends with the bride said that I wasn't. But then a bunch of the family started to message me.
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    Font - It turns out that Kevin was the bride's brother and the family kept asking why I did that, I told them that proposing at someone else's wedding was not appropriate. They told me that I shouldn't have an opinion because I was just the DJ and now Kevin got publicly humiliated because some people knew this was going to happen so they were taking videos and live on Instagram so all their friends could see. I responded with "that would've made the newly weds hurt" but then they came back with
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    Font - That part got me thinking because I was mostly communicating with the bride about arrangements and she was very chatty before the wedding but after that she kept give my me one word answers. So I assume she is mad at me but then again when she payed me she almost doubled the amount for what I was asking for with a generous tip? So im not sure if the bride actually knew I think she would've told me. But Aita for just assuming?
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    Font - ETA: A lot of people said to ask the bride and groom I did but like I said their answers were vague. Bride said it was fine but it was probably just to spare my feelings. I didn't want to push because she clearly had a lot on her mind in the moment.
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    Font - KronkLaSworda 15 hr. ago Supreme Court Just-ass [107] If the bride knew this was going to happen and approved it, she should have told you before hand. Going with NTA. Your heart was in the right place. Protect the bride and groom's day. 21.1k Reply Share
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    Font - istrx13 14 hr. ago edited 13 hr. ago ● Ya maybe hindsight is 20/20 here. But if I'm the guy proposing, I'm making sure every important person (like the DJ you're requesting a special song from) is in the know. Make sure one of the bride or groom tells them that it's chill if the guy uses their wedding as the spot to propose. Honestly I'd want both the bride and groom to tell the DJ together that it's ok.
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    Font - Maybe I'm just an over analyzer but I would be playing out every possible thing that could ruin the proposal before actually doing it and making sure those things are figured out. And if I can't shore it all up then I'm not proposing.
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    Font - REF_YOU_SUCK. 13 hr. ago Agree 100% If I'm the dj, ain't no chance I'm honoring a request like that without getting verbal face to face approval from bride AND groom. And I want a 3rd party witness there to verify. Preferably one of the other vendors.
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    Font - at someone else's Proposing wedding is tacky AF
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    Font - double_sal_gal 9 hr. ago The fact that she paid OP so well makes me think she was secretly grateful.

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